MOTHERING, CAREGIVING.

Grief.  

“To know love is to know pain”- Rumi.

Marked by transitions, mothering is characterised by losses and new beginnings. As our children grow and evolve so to do those alongside them.

These cycles of growth can invoke a mixture of feelings, so often change involves loss. Loss of the person we once were, loss of each developmental stage of our children. The feeling of grief can often accompany the perception of loss. It can feel a surprising sadness, for there is nothing seen on the outside to honour this grief, yet on the inside it is a very real and piercing feeling. The world within us changes, imperceptibly and invisibly, like the legs of a swan underneath the water.

These sudden feelings of sorrow and grief can appear when least expected. It’s purpose to slow us and soften us. When allowed through its heavy and painful course, grief cracks us and opens our hearts. To feel grief is to create a space within us. It’s a marker how much we’ve loved and how much we can love. There is a generosity within grief.

5.May. 2025.