HEALTH AND WELLBEING.

Steadiness.

The paradox of life is that change is the only constant.

As we inevitably evolve and adapt throughout life, not in linearity, it can feel a challenge to find an internal sense of equillibrium- that is to maintain a felt sense of self throughout our evolutions.

The foundations of our internal stability are built in our childhood. As babies we are born into reliance- on our caregivers for meeting our needs, and steadiness is created through reasonance, rhythm and relationship. As we grow towards maturity, this dyad between infant and parent/ caregiver widens and as we move towards a more autonomous state, the capacity to find an internal source of steadiness increasingly becomes the responsibility of maturity.

This process of finding a steadyness in itself is never static. Balance is continully negated across our lifespans as we exist within a dyanmic equllibirum that can shift within and without. In many ways our needs for reasonance and attunement never cease to exist. Finding steadyness- is met through the delicate interplay of maintaining our autonmony whilst accepting that we in someways retain a level of vulnerability and an intrinsic connection to others throughout our lives.

Finding balance amoungst it, is a skill that lies at the intersection of our physical experience, in our capacity to recognise, feel and let go of our emotions, where we place our attention and awareness, what we value, our inner sense of self and worth, having the resources to meet our needs and our ability to accept our limitations. It is an art that embraces all of lives extremes- birth and death, love and pain, falling and rising.

By Helen Coutts

6. August. 2025.

Image. Kim Verdebo.